Thursday, October 30, 2008

Do we have to be correct all the time?

Met up with an idol of mine recently, whom I've wanted to meet for quite some time now.....and all I can say of that meeting is that.....my beliefs has been renewed.

We sat down and threw ideas and beliefs at each other and I came back satisfied. His foresights on things are spot on…..and we shared the same insights on things. The only difference is….he did it in a more direct way…no BS kinda way. Which I love and respect.

In photography, some people are just a pain and just need to be correct all the time. Yes….ALL the time! When it comes to giving suggestions, comments or critiques….they just want the last word in everything. It has to be their way….and nothing else.

Do you still remember when your best friend asks you to tag along to advise him on a new shirt/shoe? And he insisted for your advise……on a blue shirt or a red one. …stating that he’s kinda undecided between the two. And being a good friend that you are……you chose RED. But he went for the BLUE!

Suddenly you felt defensive…..why the heck did he bring you along asking to advise him but in actual fact he already has the RED shirt already fix in his mind? Kinda irony isn’t it?

But sometimes we forget……that our advise is from our own perspective and preferences….but not from his. That is what we would have chosen…….if we were to choose between the 2….and if we were the one who’s buying/wearing it.

We forgot that it is merely a suggestion (and nothing else)……it depends for him/her to accept them. Do we really need to be defensive about it? Again at what expense?

Next time if you are the one asking for suggestion……please don’t do that to others if you’ve already set your mind on something else.

‘Sometimes winning is not everything’

p/s…to my new found friend…you know who you are. Thanks for reminding me.

6 comments:

-kar- said...

Deja vu!

I feel like I've read it somewhere. Exact detail to the example...

Hmmmm....

zamrud photography said...

Read or heard?

-kar- said...

Mebbe heard la...

Evon T. said...

Yep, I hav experienced something like this before. And the people seem to misunderstand what i actually wanted to tell haha.. Oh well, it is so right:)

zamrud photography said...

Thanks evon....my lovely gal. Some ppl just needs to have the last word.....

Btw love to have worked with u. Take care.

Adrian said...

Being correct tells everyone that you knowledgeable and wise, but pinning people down and telling people that you are correct is something else... A little too much... That's what I think.. He he... You rock man